Jedi Knight, prosperity authority and critical thinker Randy Gage tweeted:
“The next time your core beliefs are challenged — try being curious instead of furious.”
This one golden nugget can make an absolutely huge difference in your personal effectiveness.
As discussed in Adversaries into Allies, as human beings we are basically run by an operating system or “belief system” we don’t even realize we are run by. Yes, we are conscious of many of our beliefs—we’re just not conscious of being controlled by them. Or, of our emotional attachment to them.
That’s why it’s so easy to become defensive when someone says something that runs contrary to our beliefs.
But, is that other person wrong? Maybe they are. Are they right? Could be. Are they neither wrong nor right but just see things differently than you do? That’s also a possibility.
However, the only way we can be in a position to explore those possibilities is to reason them out with a sense of conscious-based logic rather than to react unconsciously and defensively.
If you want to be an Ultimate Influencer, a great leader, and the most effective human being possible, it’s imperative that you allow your core beliefs to be put to the test.
That doesn’t mean you should be so open-minded that your brains fall out. But curious enough to consider some alternate possibilities.
Take Randy Gage’s advice and exchange “furiosity” for curiosity.
Try it next time. If it feels a bit uncomfortable, you’re probably on the right track.
This article was originally published by Bob Burg
Published: January 6, 2014